As blogged by my 17 year old - going on 30 - son, Kyle. Oh to be 17 again....
Sunday, April 13, 2008
A blog for the broken hearted...
If life seems to get you down because a recent love has let you down, then heres my philosophy to you!
You need to be strong. Plain and simple as that, and if you think it is too tough to do, then remember this simple fact:
The heart is a muscle, and like any other muscle among your fleshy being, it can get torn, damaged, hurt, crushed, bruised, or any number of those other "charming" words. And like those other muscles when it gets the chance to recover, it will heal stronger than ever before and will be that much harder to break the next time around.
With that said, you need to be, and can be strong. All you need to do is stay positive, keep moving forward in your life, and give your heart all the time it needs to recover. If you try to force your heart into a speedy recovery by lying to yourself and saying it doesn't hurt, then you wont strengthen your heart; you will harden it. If you harden your heart, you will only put a shell around it that is harder for others to get into, but if you strengthen your heart, you will eventually love again and it will be more powerful than ever before.
Another thing is that you can't dwell on the past, because the painful fact is that you can't change it. Your muscles are weak and they will rip easily if they haven't fully healed, so if you keep sulking over something that can't be helped you will perpetually negate any, and all progress you have made on the road to recovery. Distance yourself from the painful thoughts by distracting yourself with other things like work, school, or even some new people (just make sure they aren't the wrong kind of people). Keep trudging through the darkness of your tunnel. Before you know it you will be through the gloom and see that there is a big world just waiting for you to put your mark on it, and you can't make that mark if you don't get out there.
So when you are feeling down just take a step back, a couple of deep breaths, and know that things will get better as long as you perservere through your tribulations and keep moving forward. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and when you're stronger, you can achieve that much more. Just remember that your heart is a muscle, and the only way to make muscles stronger is to put them through a workout. And the more difficult and more painful the workout is, the stronger your muscles will become.
Whatever happens happens, and its always for a reason!
P.S. If my advice doesn't help, then read this through once more, but with "Move Along" by The All-American Rejects playing in the background.
I'm just a country girl, having the time of her life, treasure hunting daily, seeing the good in all things that others might consider worthless. I love creating mixed media artwork and home décor items using found objects...and I've just recently started dabbling in wearable art jewelry. Many of my fixed-up finds have been published in a number of magazines and have won accolades. But my life spent in Southern Oregon, with my family and friends, is the MOST important to me. Without their support and encouragement, I might just be another hoarder! LOL I'm enjoying meeting like-minded persons and sharing ideas, dreams, and experiences...and hope to have the studio open to the public someday soon.
Tina Schiefer works and lives in Southern Oregon, where she and her husband own and operate a themed fabrication company serving the entertainment industry, E.B. Effects and Design. She is the proud mother of three grown sons; is a themed media, assemblage artist using primarily found objects and cast-offs; and will soon be hosting and teaching mixed media, jewelry, and home décor related workshops in her new studio, The Rusty Monkey. She is enjoying meeting other artists with like minds and sharing the adventure! She was an ICE Resin Creative Team Member 2011-2012. Many of her creations can be seen in a variety of magazines such as Somerset Home, Somerset Gallery, Art Doll Quarterly, Somerset Memories, Mingle, Somerset Life, Belle Armoire Jewelry and Jewelry Affaire, and on the spring issue of Create & Decorate. Most recently, one of her assemblages, Folly - a parasol, won 2nd place in the Spellbinders Explore Beyond - Craft to Win contest.